Really really useful to always think 'how would we as adults respond?' It strikes me that we expect young people to feel and think and behave more responsibly than we do...

Co-regulating to avoid escalating an incident. At least two of the examples Dave offered, have happened in our setting. One of them, I regret, was involving myself.

I know how hard it can be to have a conversation to resolve conflict, but seeing that paralleled with exclusion it made it so obvious that it is harder but more beneficial

I have Anxiety and Depression, so I feel that my self regulation requires work. Even the simple advice of taking a moment where possible is reassuring and helpful.

Dave's approach seems so straightforward and common sense. More difficult to achieve in practice, but as he argued - a restorative conversation with a child is often more challenging

Really valuable input. 'Make the connection before you make any correction' will stick with me and 'invite the child into our calm, rather than us joining them in their chaos'

Unconditional Positive Regard. Providing support and maintaining a relationship with a young person regardless, even when the stakes have been raised.

Calm is a secret weapon and I don't let anyone mess with my calm. It is reassuring that change is seen as a gradual process and responsive to staff.

Reassuring - building these positive relationships is worthwhile. Thought-provoking insight - teacher saying 'I know this isn't right' action - whole school

The consistency required in this approach. By building strong, consistent relationships with CYP, we gain their trust. And trust is the key.

Love the idea of role modelling and inviting YP to join us in our calm.