Building Resilience in Scotland's Boys

200+ Learners


Boys' Mental Health stigma

Stress management & masculinity

10 things that help build resilience

The pressures on our young men


Video Classes



3.5 hrs


With speaker slides & resources from across our entire ‘Supporting Boys’ series; the ability to take notes throughout the course & a Certificate of Course Completion


Boys are often less likely than girls to actively seek support with their mental health. Many teachers and other professionals, report that it can be difficult to encourage boys to speak about how they are feeling – those struggling with their mental health will often try to hide it, making the problem worse. Yet our boys and young men face a range of pressures and stresses – be they caused by schoolwork and educational expectations; Adverse Childhood Experiences; negative body image or low self-esteem; bullying and peer pressure; social media and the fear of missing out; or the impact of pornography on their sexual development.

This on-demand learning course brings expert trainers – including Suzanne Zeedyk, Pattie Santelices, Graham Goulden, Ross Deuchar and more – straight to your device. You can click and play as many of the 10 video classes as you like, whenever you like, in whichever order you like. Providing you with ideas and thoughts on how we can build resilience amongst Scotland’s boys; how best to support them to open up about how they are feeling; and how to help them manage their own stress and anxiety.

The course focuses on the following key themes –

  • How a boy’s stress management system shapes their masculinity
  • Boys and Men’s stigma in Mental Health and how to overcome this
  • Building resilience in pupils, staff and families
  • Understanding the pressures on our young men
  • Reaching the most excluded boys in our society and the impact of street culture
  • The power of community


Course rates for learners

1 Learner


3-5 learners

Small group
£ 80 Per person

6-500+ learners

Large group
£ 75-15 Per person

Detailed course agenda

SAMPLE CLASS: Course Welcome – Graham Goulden (01:53)

Session One – Understanding resilience and growing up in Scotland

Making it better for boys – Graham Goulden (22:29)

  • The challenges facing our boys
  • The impacts such challenges can have
  • The Culture of Toxic Masculinity
  • How we can help boys overcome this

How baby boys’ fragile stress management system shapes their masculinity – Part 1, Dr. Suzanne Zeedyk (19:23)

Part 1 – The Stress System

  • “You’re a big boy now, who doesn’t need so many cuddles”
  • The importance of connection and how it shapes brain development in babies
  • What is a baby’s ‘stress management system’?

How baby boys’ fragile stress management system shapes their masculinity – Part 2, Dr. Suzanne Zeedyk (14:49)

Part 2 – Baby boys’ stress systems

  • What does the latest science reveal about innate differences in boys’ and girls’ stress management systems?
  • How does this gender difference intersect with cultural norms that shape boys’ performance and experience of masculinity, emotions and relationships?
  • The consequence for quality, early years childcare provision

How baby boys’ fragile stress management system shapes their masculinity – Part 3, Dr. Suzanne Zeedyk (14:42)

Part 3 – What to do?

  • Understand attachment and the impact of relationships on a baby’s and toddler’s stress system
  • Recognise the disproportionate need for boys to make connections and build relationships
  • What actions can we take? Cuddle boys; Comfort boys; Be alert to stress; Get attachment information out to everyone & Celebrate empathy

Session Two – Resilience and Boys’ Mental Health

Boys and Men’s stigma in Mental Health – Ellie Moyes & Oliver McLuckie (19:09)

  • The challenges around Boys and Men seeking help and support for their Mental Health
  • The ‘Whats On Your Mind’ Project and Resource Pack
  • Seeking your thoughts and input
  • Male Mental Health stigma and potential outcomes

Delving deeper into the stigma and taking action – Ellie Moyes & Oliver McLuckie (15:08)

  • The ‘Whats On Your Mind’ Project and Resource Pack
  • Focus group research and findings – need for male focused and targeted interventions and resources
  • Emphasis on self care and peer support
  • Seeking your thoughts and input to help shape ongoing work to create a resource aimed specifically at men – both young and old – which can be used in more male-friendly settings

10 things that help build resilience in pupils, staff and families – Pattie Santelices (18:07)

  • Why Focus On Mental Health?
  • Risk Factors for Children’s Mental Health
  • Building Resilience and Introducing our character, Skipper
  • 10 things identified by the research that we use to build understanding of resilience in pupils, staff and families

Session Three – The impact of society on shaping boy’s resilience

Understanding the pressures on our young men: reaching the most vulnerable and excluded in our society – Part 1, Professor Ross Deuchar (17:38)

  • ACEs, Marginality and Trauma
  • Masculinity, ACEs and Violence
  • Routes into gangs, drug misuse and drug supply

Understanding the pressures on our young men: reaching the most vulnerable and excluded in our society – Part 2, Professor Ross Deuchar (18:20)

  • Impact of drug misuse and drug supply
  • How masculinity is socially constructed and the links with vulnerability
  • How Schools and Education can help and the real cost of exclusion

Building resilience: The power of community – Sean Humphreys (19:05)

  • Community – the foundation of mental health and wellbeing
  • How can we harness the building blocks of community?
  • Working together to develop individual and collective resilience

Additional Resources

Resources and Materials from across our “Supporting Boys” training series (Feb 2018-June 2019)

Learner Feedback

Your Feedback and Thoughts

Introducing Our Trainers

Dr. Suzanne Zeedyk

Dr. Suzanne Zeedyk is a research scientist fascinated by babies’ inborn capacity to communicate. Since 1993, she has been based at the University of Dundee, within the School of Psychology. In 2011, she set up her own independent training enterprise to disseminate more widely the science of the early years. She now spends much of her time speaking to the public about our human need for emotional and physiological connection. She is able to bring to this her research expertise on topics including parent-infant relationships, family support, communicative disorders, and the socio-political contexts that frame our responses to scientific information. She works closely with organisations throughout the world to increase awareness of the decisions we take about caring for children, illuminating the way in which those decisions are integrally connected to our vision for the kind of society we wish to build.

Pattie Santelices

Pattie and her team co-ordinate, develop and deliver a range of programmes and training to promote mental health and wellbeing in children, young people, parents and staff across Edinburgh and the Lothians.  These include Growing Confidence, Roots of Empathy, Building Resilience,  1 in 5 Child Poverty Work, Rights Respecting Schools, Turn Your Life Around and a range of parent and carer programmes. All the work is focused on inspiring pupils, staff and families of how they can make a difference to their own lives and those around them. For more information email: growingconfidence@

Professor Ross Deuchar

Professor Ross Deuchar is a Scottish criminologist, known primarily for his work on gangs, masculinity, street culture, violence and gang desistance and also on policing, procedural justice and focused deterrence strategies.

Ross constantly strives to include the excluded, and regularly produces research insights which prioritise the voices of the most disadvantaged and hard-to-reach in our society. His work has spanned across three Continents of the world, having worked with the most marginalised and hard-to-reach gang members on the streets and in youth clubs, secure accommodation and prisons and conducted ethnographic research on gang intervention programmes in Scotland, Denmark, the United States of America and Hong Kong. Ross has also engaged in participant observation of frontline police practice, street advocacy and youth work in both the United States of America and Scotland.

In March 2010, Ross was runner-up for the Economic and Social Research Council’s prestigious Michael Young Prize in recognition of his research into gang culture in the West of Scotland. In 2016-17, he was the recipient of a prestigious Fulbright scholarship award and spent a semester as Fulbright scholar-in-residence within the School of Criminology and Criminal Justice at Florida Atlantic University, USA.

Ross is the author of the pioneering new book Gangs and Spirituality: Global Perspectives’ (2018, Palgrave MacMillan), which was featured on the BBC Radio 4 ‘Thinking Allowed’ programme in the summer of 2018.

He has also authored the highly acclaimed book, ‘Gangs, Marginalised Youth and Social Capital’ (2009, Trentham); its sequel ‘Policing Youth Violence: Transatlantic Connections’ (2013, Trentham, IOE Press); co-editor of ‘Researching Marginalized Groups’ (2016, Routledge) and co-author of ‘Young People and Social Control: Problems and Prospects from the Margins’ (2017, Palgrave MacMillan).

You can find out more about Ross and his work on his website –

Graham Goulden

Graham Goulden, BA, is an experienced and committed violence prevention trainer. For thirty year’s he was a Scottish police officer and Chief Investigator specialising in criminal investigation, drug investigation, training and crime prevention. For the last eight years of his policing career he was a key member of the Scottish Violence Reduction Unit (

In 2010 Graham introduced The Mentors in Violence Prevention Programme (MVP) into high schools across Scotland, successfully handing over the overall lead to Education Scotland in 2017. MVP is a leader in bystander education in the United States ( Graham continues to support MVP development in Scotland as well as being a trainer for the US MVP organisation.

In addition, he has conducted numerous trainings and keynote speeches in Scotland, England, Wales, Sweden, and in the United States. In addition to conducting bystander trainings, Graham has expert knowledge and experience in embedding violence prevention programmes within local government, and has been able to build sustainable models for the longer term.

Graham has delivered prevention trainings in many different settings including high schools, colleges, universities, in work places, in prisons, with military and police and with professional and amateur sports in the UK and United States. Graham has worked with many different individuals and groups using bystander activities to engage audiences in the prevention of violence. Graham has worked with hairdressers, dentists, vets, fire officers, police & prison officers, bar & security staff, the military as well as in local communities.

Graham is a passionate advocate of the MVP Programme and the bystander approach. He is committed to engaging individuals making it clear that we all have a role in the prevention of violence in our communities. Since retiring from the police service he has set up the organisation ‘Cultivating Minds UK’ with the primary aim of starting conversations in many different settings and communities to promote healthy relationships and successful outcomes. He continues to work with the violence reduction unit in prevention work across Scotland and the UK.

Graham holds a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Criminal Justice Studies and a Certificate in Training from Napier University, Edinburgh. He lives with his family near Edinburgh.

Oliver McLuckie

Hey there!  I’m Ollie and I’m a consultant youth worker with See Me’s education and young people program.  I have a passion for tackling mental health stigma and discrimination and giving young people a chance to use their voice and lived experience to make changes in their schools and communities.  Over the past year with See Me, I have been working on tackling male specific stigmas around mental health, and am passionate about encouraging young men to speak out.  Outside of See Me I currently work as mental health support worker and am about to start a new position working with child and adolescent mental health services.

See Me email:

Ellie Moyes

Hi, I’m Ellie! I’m a consultant youth worker with the education and young people’s team at See Me Scotland. We work to increase mental health literacy and empower young people to challenge mental health stigma and discrimination across the country. I love working with young people and seeing them use their lived experience and voice to take action makes me so proud! Outside of my role with See Me I am incredibly passionate about this cause; I currently work as a clinical support worker in the national child psychiatry unit at the RHC and previously worked as a residential child care worker, I have also just completed a masters in children and young people’s mental health and am starting an applied psychology training programme with the NHS next year!

See Me email:

Sean Humphreys

Sean Humphreys is a counsellor, therapist, practice supervisor, coach and training consultant with experience of working in the field of psychology and its applications to therapeutic settings, leadership and educational environments. Up until Autumn 2020, he was the Mental Health and Wellbeing Development Officer for Youthlink Scotland (the national agency for Youth Work).

He has presented at conferences in other areas of Europe as well as in Britain in recent years and has over two decades of experience of building relationships and working with young people, both in one to one and group settings in communities across Scotland.